Constructive Anger

Constructive Anger

 

Certain situations arise when love, persuasion and other techniques fail to set the thing right or to correct a person or to get a work done. In such circumstances, if it is felt that manifestation of slight anger or terror will help get the work done or correct the situation, then such anger is not harmful.

In fact for a balanced person such anger is only an outward show. Inside he remains cool and composed.

This can also be termed as an `artificial anger' in which other persons will feel as if you are really angry while you are quite controlled from inside.

Does not a drama-artist display anger when the script calls for it? How realistic is his pose, but is there any trace of anger in his heart?

In some situations, you can get the work done from the seriousness of your personality and in that case even artificial anger is not required.

 If you are a man of strong character, you say something seriously is enough to get the other person moving. Your personality, your words, your thoughts – all these have great power. It should be noted that anger and assertiveness are two different things. Anger is your weakness and assertiveness is your strength.

Anger is breakdown of control while assertiveness is remaining under full control and dealing with a situation firmly, strongly, seriously.

Anger should pass off the next moment as a wave subsides in the sea. No malice or ill-will should be stored in your heart on account of such anger. It should be momentary outburst of your displeasure.

 

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 `Be soft as a flower when it comes kindness but tough as thunder when it comes to principle. Be courteous and polite at all times but never to be pushed around,'

`Anybody can become angry~ that is easy; but to be angry with the right person, and to the right degree, and at the right time and for the right purpose, and in the right way~ that is not within everybody's power and is not easy.''—Aristotle