Constructive Anger

Constructive Anger

 

Certain situations arise when love, persuasion and other techniques fail to set the thing right or to correct a person or to get a work done. In such circumstances, if it is felt that manifestation of slight anger or terror will help get the work done or correct the situation, then such anger is not harmful.

In fact for a balanced person such anger is only an outward show. Inside he remains cool and composed.

This can also be termed as an `artificial anger' in which other persons will feel as if you are really angry while you are quite controlled from inside.

Does not a drama-artist display anger when the script calls for it? How realistic is his pose, but is there any trace of anger in his heart?

In some situations, you can get the work done from the seriousness of your personality and in that case even artificial anger is not required.

 If you are a man of strong character, you say something seriously is enough to get the other person moving. Your personality, your words, your thoughts – all these have great power. It should be noted that anger and assertiveness are two different things. Anger is your weakness and assertiveness is your strength.

Anger is breakdown of control while assertiveness is remaining under full control and dealing with a situation firmly, strongly, seriously.

Anger should pass off the next moment as a wave subsides in the sea. No malice or ill-will should be stored in your heart on account of such anger. It should be momentary outburst of your displeasure.

 

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 `Be soft as a flower when it comes kindness but tough as thunder when it comes to principle. Be courteous and polite at all times but never to be pushed around,'

`Anybody can become angry~ that is easy; but to be angry with the right person, and to the right degree, and at the right time and for the right purpose, and in the right way~ that is not within everybody's power and is not easy.''—Aristotle

Lower Back Pain...Should You Use Ice or Heat?

Lower Back Pain...Should You Use Ice or Heat? by: Junji Takano Hundreds of millions of people worldwide are plagued by lower back pain (lumbago). About 80% of people experience it at some point in their lives, and is very common in the aging population. There are more than 30 kinds of low back pain. In fact, there's a type of back pain caused by a rupture of blood vessel. This can be very dangerous and may lead to sudden death. In this article, we'll introduce to you some various measures that you can apply to deal with different types of low back pain. ## What is the Dangerous Type of Low Back Pain? First, let's talk about the dangerous type of lower back pain, which can be life-threatening. This is rare, but there are cases when it happens. The dangerous type of low back pain is caused by Abdominal Aortic Aneurysm. Aneurysm is a severe enlargement of an artery resulting from a weakening of the artery wall. This commonly develops along the main artery of the body, which is called the aorta. When this enlarged blood vessel begins to leak or had ruptured, severe pain will occur along the ruptured area. If the ruptured blood vessel is located in the abdomen, then sudden severe abdominal or low back pain will occur. This is a medical emergency, and if left untreated, it can lead to unconsciousness and even death. ## My Back Hurts! Should I Apply Ice? Or Heat? In many cases, lower back pain is not that serious but you may always want to alleviate the pain when it occurs. The first solution that comes to mind when you think of low back pain is to either apply ice or heat. But what is the best solution? Is it heat? Ice? Or both? - First of all, you should find out what's causing the lower back pain. Low back pain that occurs suddenly (acute) is caused either by a traumatic injury or improper posture (like when picking up heavy objects). Symptoms of acute lower back pain are short-lived and will usually disappear in less than 1 month. Symptoms for sub-acute cases can last up to 3 months. On the other hand, symptoms of chronic lower back pain can persist beyond 3 months. Although this can be caused by a mechanical injury, it is usually caused by a degenerative condition. Sometimes the cause is unknown. ## When There Is an Inflammation, Apply Ice! The good rule of thumb is that if an area is swollen or if it is an injury that just occurred, use ice. This is the same first aid you use when you have a sprained ankle. The idea behind this is that the cold shrinks the blood vessels in the affected area, preventing too much blood from flowing to the injured site. It can also interrupt the nerve impulses, numbing the area. Remember not to apply ice directly to your skin. Always cover it with a cloth or towel. ## When to Apply Heat for Low Back Pain? When there is no inflammation or once the inflammation has dissipated after using ice, apply heat treatment for lower back pain. The heat helps the muscles relax. It opens up the blood vessels and encourages blood circulation. In the end, this promotes better healing. The heat also helps relieve pain by stimulating the nerves. ## What about Medicated Cold Patch or Heat Patch for Lower Back Pain? According to a Japanese specialist, in reference to Japan's "2012 Clinical Practice Guidelines for Low Back Pain", you may use either a heat or cold patch for low back pain. This is how. Medicated heat patches contain active ingredients such as capsaicin. Capsaicin is a compound that is responsible for the hotness of hot peppers. On the contrary, cold patches contain active ingredients such as menthol. This gives the cool feeling to relieve pain. That is, these patches do not literally warm up or cool the body in the first place. They give the sensation of "feeling" cool or warm alongside with other analgesic or anti-inflammatory ingredients to relieve the pain. You can use either a cold patch or a heat patch depending on what feels more comfortable for you. ## Exercise Technique to Get Rid of Low Back Pain - Maintain good walking posture 1. Stand straight and avoid leaning forward or leaning back. 2. Do not clench your fists while walking. This can raise your blood pressure. 3. Walk at least more than 15 minutes every day. - Stay active 1. For acute lower back pain, engaging in physical activity within of course the limits of pain will help speed up the recovery. 2. Light exercises help drive away stress and improve blood circulation. 3. Some people find that biking help them feel comfortable with certain back pain. However, depending on the type and intensity of back pain, some exercises may not be advisable for you. Remember to always ask your doctor before doing exercise for low back pain. ## Can the PYRO-ENERGEN Electrostatic Therapy Machine Help Lower Back Pain? Low back pain that is NOT caused by an accident or injury is curable by the PYRO-ENERGEN therapy, especially those that have unknown cause. Before you undergo other treatments, we suggest that you try the PYRO-ENERGEN therapy. You may be the lucky one. Send This Article To Your Friends -OR- ------------------------------------------------------------ About the author: Junji Takano is a Japanese health researcher involved in investigating the cause of many dreadful diseases. In 1968, he invented PYRO-ENERGEN, the first electrostatic therapy device for electromedicine that effectively eradicates viral diseases, cancer, and diseases of unknown cause. ------------------------------------------------------------ ------------------------------------------------------------ PYRO-ENERGEN. 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REAL FRIENDSHIP

REAL FRIENDSHIP HAS NO END

I deleted one of my friend's number from my phone book because of certain misunderstanding between us.

Today I received a friendship message from an unknown number. I replied 'WHO r u'? The reply made me cry.. Idiot don't you even know the spelling of 'HOW'..? I am fine dude.." 

''REAL FRIENDSHIP HAS NO END''  

 

Very Useful information..! FIGHT BACK

Tech Mahindra had long back developed an application called FightBack  which was being used only by the staff members of Mahindra Group. After the gang-rape of a woman in New Delhi; Anand Mahindra has now thrown open this smart phone application for public use, beyond Mahindra employees. The FightBack application tracks a user's location and sends SOS messages to selected contacts in case of an emergency. This application is now available for download on the company website for free & IS ONLY FOR INDIAN MOBILE NUMBERS. The FightBack app allows the user to press on a panic button whenever he/she feels unsafe. It tracks the location using GPS and alerts chosen contacts about the location map and is available on Android and Blackberry. www.fightbackmobile.com Steps - How to download the application 1 - Register yourself or login through Faceback with Post click. 2 - After the successful Login in the portal, Click to Download. 3 - Enter the mobile number on which you want to deploy for the Fight Back application. 4 - Select your handset on which you would like to download the application from the device list. 5 - Click on Download button, and you will receive the link to download via SMS. 6 - By clicking on the downloadable link within the received SMS your application will start downloading. Do spread this to create awareness.

How do you define success?

 

How do you define success?

 

I am sharing a mail get from a friend.

I have spent nearly 20 years on Mountain Search & Rescue teams within both California and Idaho. On several occasions I was involved within a mission that involved our teams removing people from very serious situations including aircraft crash sites.

On one occasion we were called out on a missing aircraft. After two days of searching, we located the downed private aircraft. Amazingly the pilot survived the crash.

The evacuation was a tremendous event; one of the greatest challenges most of our team members had ever faced. Air support was not an option due to weather so we had to move this broken-up man via the narrow ridges and trails.

His body was broke at nearly every point from head to toe and the pain from the movement needed to evacuate him from the mountains was incredible. His struggle to survive was amazing. This was a successful man, he had a very high-end private GA aircraft, his personal items told us that this man was very wealthy with very expensive clothing, his selection of the diamond bezel Rolex but more so was his conversation with us.

This man repeatedly asked us to inform his wife and kids how sorry he was for his short comings. His lack of time spent with them, the little he had done with his children as they grew. As we crossed over drainage and racked his body on rocks and trees just so we could save his life, his lips never stopped talking of his desires to live so he could make up for the missed times with his family.

He continually asked us to tell his family specific items and the sorrow he had for missing the important years of their life.

So here is a man that had money, had success, had material items most people never realize in life yet he regretted his way of life. He kept repeating that he would trade everything he owned to live another day just to see his family. He latter died as we carried his body to an awaiting helicopter that took his body to a parking lot where his family was awaiting.

Telling his family his confessions to us prior to dying was one of the most difficult situations of my life. All one of his sons said was "We kept telling him all we wanted was him. Why did he not understand that?"

While business is important to me, its only the avenue I use to allow my family and the time we enjoy together business works for me now, not me working for business.

I wish I would have learned this a decade before I did and had I known my current day mentors back then, I would have taken those actions but thank God no stranger will ever need to tell my wife and kids how I felt about them.

Wise man

 A wise man once sat in the audience and cracked a joke -all of them laughed like crazy.

After a moment he cracked the same joke again & a little less people laughed this time...

He cracked the same one again & no one laughed !!!

Then he smiled and said ''when you can't laugh on the same joke again & again then why do you keep crying over the same thing over & over again'' 

FORGET the past and MOVE ON ...

 

The Evolution of Anger

 The Evolution of Anger

We become a little irritated when we are stuck in a traffic jam and we getting late to reach somewhere on time, or we are not going to complete a particular task, as per our expectations or if someone whom we very well know decides to ignore us today, for some reason or the other.

 

If this seed of irritation is watered, or in other words it is given the concentrated energy of our attention i.e. we continue with the irritation for some time, it slowly grows or evolves into frustration.

 

Unless we take some constructive inner action to stop the growth of the frustration and we keep energizing it, it will grow or evolve into anger. And if this happens regularly and we are not careful, it will become a habit, a part of our personality, which we will finally come to believe is a natural part of your nature. We will even think we were born with it. That it is 'in our genes'.

 

Every time we become angry we cause the production of certain chemicals in our body and we also become addicted to those chemicals - then we look for people and situations which will give us an excuse to get angry so that we can have our daily dose of chemicals. We not only become attached to material objects, people, ways of thinking, beliefs etc. - we also become attached to our emotions like the emotion of anger. The regular secretion of these chemicals will finally kill our body. We don't need to kill our body.

 

We need to accept that anger is never ever productive, know that it is just not necessary to be angry with anyone or about anything, know that it is entirely our own creation and know that we can choose a different response. If we know and accept that, we will experience freedom from it.

With Best Wishes, 

Seven warning signs

Dear All,    The warnings of an impending disaster; cannot afford to ignore.    1. Discomfort in the Chest The most common warning sign of a heart attack is the feeling of discomfort or heaviness in the chest. This feeling could also be more of a burning sensation. Any of these symptoms should not be taken lightly, and if it occurs more than once, you need to rush to your doctor. If another person is complaining of the problem, chances are they have experienced the feeling before and are only expressing it now. So, rush them to the nearest doctor or hospital immediately for a check up. 2. Shortness of Breath If your breathing gets heavy and the breath falls short even after a short walk, climb or other form of movement or exercise, it should be a huge cause of worry. Even if this condition is not accompanied with chest discomfort, it should be taken as a warning sign. 3. Sweating Whilst sweating is inevitable in the scorching heat of May and June, excessive sweating even in cool conditions is uncalled for. If you notice such sweating, consult a medical professional immediately. 4. Nausea Regularly feeling nauseous of dizzy could imply the onset of a heart attack. Do not treat is callously as a sign of tiredness. This could happen due to the artery getting blocked. It could also display itself via excessive stress, fatigue after short spans of movement or exercise, or a feeling of weakness despite eating and sleeping well. 5. Numbness in Arms If your arms feel numb and seem to be drifting to the sides, heart problem may be the cause. 6. Unresponsiveness If certain parts of your body begin to stop responding, do not ignore the circumstance. The affected parts may be the shoulders, arms or back of the neck. 7. Slurring while Speaking Difficulty while speaking need not necessarily occur after a bout of drinking with the buddies. It could be a graver situation than that! Inability to speak coherently could be the sign of a great attack. If you think you are suffering this ask a friend or relative to help by asking them to understand what you are saying.           A heart attack can be avoided if the warning signs are read correctly and in time. Seek medical aid immediately if one or more of the above symptoms are noticed. They could be the result of a choked artery. Even if heart attack is not the result, a check up should definitely not be avoided!Take care!   I came across this article today morning, thought I would share it with you.

Throw Your "Self"

 

The only way that we can live is, if we grow.

The only way that we can grow is, if we change.

The only way that we can change is, if we learn.

The only way we can learn is, if we are exposed.

And the only way that we can become exposed is, if we throw ourselves out into the open.

Do it. Throw yourself." 

WE ARE VERY VERY SMALL CREATURE IN THIS UNIVERSE. 

ONLY WAY WE CAN GROW IS THROW YOUR   'SELF'.

 

 

 

The Power of Positive Intention - A Powerful Tool for you to realize your Dreams

 

Dear Positive Person,

New Year Greetings to you all.

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Here I am giving you a very Powerful Tool for you to realize your dreams.

 

 

The Power of Positive Intention

Written by Dr. Lesley Phillips

Everything that is created in the universe is here already. We are not really creators as much as we are re-combiners of everything.

All of us have the capacity to attract to ourselves what seems to be missing in our lives.

If you think about shortages, you are going to attract more shortage!

If you think about what's missing, you are going to attract more of what's missing in your life.

Let me start with an example of what Wayne Dyer (American author and motivational speaker), is speaking of in his last quote.

A few months ago I woke up feeling shear dread about going to the office.

I felt I could not go in and face the day.

I said to myself, If I were sick with a cold or flu I wouldn't have to go to work.

Do you know!

Five minutes later I was displaying symptoms of the flu.

I was coughing, sneezing and a headache and nausea had set in.

Going to work was out of the question.

This is how powerful intention setting can be.

 Even though it had a negative outcome it still gave me the result,

I wanted at that time.

We each have the power to manifest into our lives the things we want and need.

The only puzzle piece that is missing, in most cases,

is the strength of the belief that we can.

 

 Like in my story above I really believed that I would be better off sick than going to work healthy.

By now we have all heard the phrase

"It is not about seeing and then believing,

it is about believing and then seeing".

 

 The ability to manifest is innate in our being.

We have the connection to source.

Like a golfer we just need to hone our skill through practice.

We always receive some result to any intention we set.

However, in many cases the person awaiting the result can miss the actual realization of their desire altogether.

They just do not see the manifestation of the intention because they may be looking in the wrong place or just not seeing at all because they are expecting something different.


For example, someone has set the intention to have a new perfect love interest come into their life. They set all the parameters of the person and no one shows up. Yet the person can be someone they are already in some sort of relationship with at the present time. Someone who was not available prior or they didn't see the individual for who they truly are and they miss the opportunity altogether.


One example I like to use that really explains this well is when I was in the market for a new, previously owned, vehicle.

I shopped around on car lots.

I browsed the regular spots online.

I even read through the car sales magazines.

Finally after many weeks of searching I finally found the vehicle I was looking for.

It was just missing a couple of features that I wanted. So I purchased the car.

 

 

(This has happened in my life too.

I wanted (I was thinking of it for a long time) to go for Santro but because of many reasons, I decided the other way and started to give advance and book Maruti Wagon R.

When I am ready to go out, I get a call from the Santro showroom, that they are bringing the vehicle for a test drive to my house.

And everything happened in a matter of 1 hour.

They brought the car to my house for a test drive and

I have finally make up my mind to go for the Santro, not for the other one.

I am happily driving the Santro for the last few years. - Vasu)


The second person I showed my new car to let me know very quickly that a friend at the office just sold the exact same vehicle except it had all the features I had been looking for and at a better price.

What is worse is she had actually told me about it two weeks prior.

I just had not been paying attention.

So I have given you examples of both positive manifestation and negative as well. The question you are probably asking at this point is, How is it done?

What is system that I find works?

It is very simple:

"It is the Power of POSITIVE INTENTION"

Here is the TIPS

1. Choose something for yourself that would be for your greater good. Remember that what you intend to manifest will come to fruition.

As the old adage goes

"Be careful what you ask for. You may just receive it."

2. Be very clear about what you want to manifest.

Write it down.

Make it reasonable though.

The more unbelievable the description the harder it will be for you

yourself to truly belief it.

 Example: I am 5 foot 3 inches tall and my intention

is that I am 5 foot 10 inches tall.

Probably not going to happen!


3. State the intention in a positive way.

No no's or not's.

Negatives are not recognized by the Universe.

For instance I don't want my husband to leave his socks on the living room floor, could rather read as "My husband picks up his clothes from the living room floor and puts them away".

4. State it in the present,

as if it has already occurred or you have received it as in the example above.

5. Set it in emotions.

 Feel that you have already received fulfillment.

Be happy about.

Celebrate!

6. Send it out to the Universe with

"Thanks and Appreciation".

7. Be thankful!!!

Be grateful!!!


8. Let it go so that the universe can bring it back to you fully formed.

If you hang on, especially with expectations of how it must come to you,

You will be placing limits on how the Universe can deliver it.

9. Share your intention with other

Positive individuals that will support you with their thought.

 You can even start an intention circle that has likeminded people get together on a regular basis to share your intentions and most importantly verbally support each other.

10. Every morning re-visit your intentions and gratitude.

This is important. Keep your intentions somewhere you can see them.


You can even make a vision board that pictorially represents your intentions

and keep it in a prominent place in your home.

As mentioned above revisiting your intentions does not mean hanging on to them.

Let them go and manifest themselves.

If you try to keep control of the manifestation process guess what, you will be in control and where has that gotten you so far.

I have found that all the best manifestations

that have occurred in my life were when

I followed the above process and then completely

letting go of any control whatsoever.

 

Amazing things happened.

That is how I met my current partner who is everything I hoped for.

I know, without a shadow of a doubt that setting intentions works and

it can for everyone.

If you truly believe and are willing to see it when it arrives

then you too can have your dreams come true.

 

Best of Luck,

Regards,